August 13, 2019

Most people will experience loss at some point in their lives. Grief is a reaction to any form of loss. Bereavement is a type of grief involving the death of a loved one. 

Bereavement and grief encompass a range of feelings from deep sadness to anger. The process of adapting to a significant loss can vary dramatically from one person to another. It often depends on a person’s background, beliefs, and relationship to what was lost.



March 7, 2019

If you are experiencing these:

  • heart racing

  • sweating

  • difficulty to breath

  • skin crawling

  • pain in the body-chest, heart, back, shoulder, stomach etc

  • disoriented with the environment

  • drawn in your overwhelming thoughts and feelings 

You are probably having a panic attack or experiencing a peak of anxiety(usually above level 6 in a scale of 10), which is actually very common and the majority of us would experience it at multiple points of our life.

The mo...

December 20, 2018

It is not uncommon that you feel a bit nervous when you first start to have counselling. If you never had counselling before, you may wonder things such as: what am I going to talk about, where shall I start, what is expected from me in a session, how the counsellor is going to respond to me, etc. Sometimes, these worries become so overwhelming that people quit even before trying and thus miss the support they can get from a counselling service.

If you...

October 27, 2018

There are now over 66.2 million expats worldwide, and this is set to reach 87.5million by 2021. While lots of people envy the life of expats, an expat life can often be stressful and lead to a deep sense of loss. Research shows that expats are 2.5 times more likely to experience anxiety/depression than domestic workers.

In addition to the obvious challenges with the language and the cultural differences, lots of expats find the lacking of support network as their main stressor. Expats normally do...

September 6, 2018

Different theories have different ways to explain how anxiety work. One of my favorite theory-Cognitive behavior therapy focus a lot on the content of thoughts and the architecture of it. Today I'd like to share some readings that I found useful to understand the mechanism behind anxiety, from a metacognition point of view. They match well with what I observed in my practice. Hope that provides those who suffer from their emotions with a different way to look at their thoughts and their anxiety(...

July 10, 2018

Therapy involves a large commitment of time, money, and energy, so you may want to be very careful about the therapist you select. You may obtain names of therapists from family members or friends who have been in therapy, teachers at school, your GP or family doctor, and any other person whose opinion you value, or simply searching on internet. In any case, you probably should do a bit of research on your potential therapist to decide if this is the right one for you. You can either find inform...

June 7, 2018

Having a session online is different to, but not inferior to face-to-face therapy. Many clients, in fact, came with doubts but ended up with very positive experience.

Researches have shown that online counselling works as effectively as therapy in person, while in practice, it could show more advantages. It provides those who, maybe because of phobia or depression or disability, have difficulty stepping outside their home or find traveling extremely distressing a chance to access support and ser...

April 30, 2018

The relationship you have with your counsellor is different than other relationships. You will be sharing sensitive, personal, and private information with your counsellor, but you will not know as much about them. This can be difficult sometimes, but as a professional, your counsellor is part of an association that has rules about the types of interactions they are allowed to have with clients. Your counselor is prohibited from engaging in a “dual relationship” with you -- one other than that o...

April 1, 2018

For the moment, I use either Skype or VSee for remote work. They both work well but have slight differences regarding to privacy and convenience. I wrote the main comparison here for your reference and you are free to choose the one that you feel more comfortable to use for our sessions. 

I assume most of you are quite familiar with the basic features of Skype, so I'll skip that and start with VSee. VSee is a free software that you download, install on your computer and use a...

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